As a romance writer, writing a kissing scene is always highly anticipating for me. It's one of the first actions between my characters that suggest that a romance is about to kick off. I have to write that first kissing scene just right; it needs to be believable. In other words, the reader has to buy into the idea that it seems real.
Everyone knows what a kiss is but I bet you haven’t dissected one or reflected on the many types of kisses there are in your typical day. I’m going to try and do that in levels of heat.
Who can pass up kissing the tiny face of an infant? Those are the first precious kisses we experience, most likely from Mom or Dad or both. There is no heat level when doing these kinds of kissing.
Everyone knows what a kiss is but I bet you haven’t dissected one or reflected on the many types of kisses there are in your typical day. I’m going to try and do that in levels of heat.
Who can pass up kissing the tiny face of an infant? Those are the first precious kisses we experience, most likely from Mom or Dad or both. There is no heat level when doing these kinds of kissing.
The second kiss and second level is when the playmate or neighbor boy is sitting next to a girl (or vice versa) and for no reason leans over and kisses her check. It's cute and he probably had no idea how adorable it looked but, his Mommy's been kissing his face for years and thinks that is what you do when you like someone. I would make this heat level One. It's pretty innocent with mild intent.
The first kiss as a teenager takes thought at this point and in some cases takes courage because now that kiss "means" something. There's a strong sense of romantic feelings and where it leads from there, no one really knows but there's hope that it leads to more kissing. Heat level Two.
Serious intent at this point. Kissing is a magical high! it stirs the libido and warms the heart. Heat level Three.
The French Kiss.
There are actual "how to..." sites on this very topic and even videos. It was fun reading the actual step by step procedure for this. I always thought it seemed like one of those things that happened naturally in kissing but here's how to French Kiss..
The basics
1. Brush your teeth, get a good bath, nicely groomed and clean and fresh, before meeting the other person. There's nothing worse than kissing the rear end of a garbage truck
2. Get into a comfortable position - you can't kiss if your back feels like it's gonna break. Suggestion - Sit side by side on a comfy sofa.
3. Hold your lover , firmly but gently - don't cause pain. Suggestion would be to hold the shoulders, the neck or gently on the side of the face, one side or both sides.
4. Move your faces closer. Don't bump noses. Suggestion would be the guy angle his face slightly so you don't bump noses.
5. Kiss gently, normal closed lips kissing, and close your eyes. Closing your eyes increases the sensations you feel, and also sets the mood.
6. Continue kissing gently. Get comfortable with simple closed lips, lip-to-lip kissing before going anywhere else.
7. If fine till here, tentatively, slowly and lightly draw your tongue across the other person's lips.
8. Chances are from here, if the other person lightly parts her tongue, slowly explore the other person's tongue in a light licking motion.
9. The tongue has a very sensitive surface, which is why tongue to tongue is the essence of french kissing.
10. After you've tried lightly licking the other person's tongue, you can try sucking on it, wrestling with it ( see if you can hold it to the floor of her mouth ) and other things like that.
11. Explore the other areas of the mouth. Especially the roof of the mouth. Lightly lick, or tickle the area with your tongue.
12. Don't bite. whatever you do, don't bite.
13. Don't swing your tongue round and round like a windmill. Explore lightly, don't drill your way through.
14. Breathe through your nose. Breathe through your nose. I say again, breathe through your nose.
15. Follow so far? You can lightly use your hands too, lightly rubbing the other person. Suggestions, along the waist, along the back, the arms, especially the inside of the arm, the neck, maybe running your fingers through her hair. Again, don't cause pain.
16. Continue kissing.
Heat Level Four.
There are actual "how to..." sites on this very topic and even videos. It was fun reading the actual step by step procedure for this. I always thought it seemed like one of those things that happened naturally in kissing but here's how to French Kiss..
The basics
1. Brush your teeth, get a good bath, nicely groomed and clean and fresh, before meeting the other person. There's nothing worse than kissing the rear end of a garbage truck
2. Get into a comfortable position - you can't kiss if your back feels like it's gonna break. Suggestion - Sit side by side on a comfy sofa.
3. Hold your lover , firmly but gently - don't cause pain. Suggestion would be to hold the shoulders, the neck or gently on the side of the face, one side or both sides.
4. Move your faces closer. Don't bump noses. Suggestion would be the guy angle his face slightly so you don't bump noses.
5. Kiss gently, normal closed lips kissing, and close your eyes. Closing your eyes increases the sensations you feel, and also sets the mood.
6. Continue kissing gently. Get comfortable with simple closed lips, lip-to-lip kissing before going anywhere else.
7. If fine till here, tentatively, slowly and lightly draw your tongue across the other person's lips.
8. Chances are from here, if the other person lightly parts her tongue, slowly explore the other person's tongue in a light licking motion.
9. The tongue has a very sensitive surface, which is why tongue to tongue is the essence of french kissing.
10. After you've tried lightly licking the other person's tongue, you can try sucking on it, wrestling with it ( see if you can hold it to the floor of her mouth ) and other things like that.
11. Explore the other areas of the mouth. Especially the roof of the mouth. Lightly lick, or tickle the area with your tongue.
12. Don't bite. whatever you do, don't bite.
13. Don't swing your tongue round and round like a windmill. Explore lightly, don't drill your way through.
14. Breathe through your nose. Breathe through your nose. I say again, breathe through your nose.
15. Follow so far? You can lightly use your hands too, lightly rubbing the other person. Suggestions, along the waist, along the back, the arms, especially the inside of the arm, the neck, maybe running your fingers through her hair. Again, don't cause pain.
16. Continue kissing.
Heat Level Four.
Soul Searching, deep penetrating no holds bar kiss. This is the most explosive kiss that involves the entire body. At this point, you KNOW who you're kissing and you LIKE it. :)
Heat level Five.
Heat level Five.